How to Dismantle the Walls of Defense and Connect in Healthy Ways Every one of Dr. John Gottman’s, 4 Horsemen, (Contempt, Stonewalling, Criticizing, Defensiveness) is a maladaptive strategy to protect us from harm. I’m sure you can trace your protective strategies...
Tips for couples who’ve lost that lovin’ feeling Intimacy is the foundation to our relationships. When it’s burning bright, everything flows with ease, patience, forgiveness, light-heartedness and safety. Yes, safety. Sharing a feeling of intimacy with our partner...
New Ways to Heal Old Wounds Partner 1: What’s happening with you. You’ve been out of sorts for the last two days. Why don’t you just tell me what’s going on. Partner 2: Nothing’s wrong. I don’t want to talk about it! Partner 1: Ok. whatever. We’ve all been part...
Have you become comfortably numb? There’s no getting away from the fact that couples in long-term relationships impact each other profoundly, in small and large ways. If you’re a couple who lives together, there are moments throughout each day that bring you together...
It’s pretty easy these days to find out what’s going on in people’s minds when it comes to sex coaching. Type it into a search engine and voila, you get back 7 questions about sex coaching, most commonly asked on the internet. I decided to answer those 7 questions...